TODAY THE WORDS are IS CHANGE THE BEST THING? The word change has been thrown around for several years in elections; critique of administrations; policy changes; changes in how people view our rights as citizens and as humans. In this time of turmoil, I hear “Change” from both sides of the fence and I started me thinking. 
What does change really mean? Our country has been through so much change already and we keep talking about more change. Children are raised differently with parents seemingly lost as to what they need to do….discipline or allow?….and all it seems to accomplish is confusion at its best. Marriage has changed in society, and why did it need changing? With a husband and wife’s marriage, when did it become acceptable with extra marital affairs, divorce on a whim, or non respect of each other? Schools have become a center of confusion with teachers afraid of disciplining the students or not afraid to overstep their position and have relationships with students. What’s up with that? 
Religion should be a “foundation built on a rock” but today it seems that everyone is trying to hide their faith in the religion of their choice and finding it popular to be without any religion. When did we, as a God fearing nation, turn a blind eye to what made this country great. Being open to new ideas does not mandate others to not like the old traditional ways too. I give an example: If you take young people who have not seen the old techniques which were used to create tools, food, etc; they are amazed and will watch every move and technique. It is because they feel the history of that tool and they can see the labor attached to the technique. They respect the history even though they cannot imagine not using the microwave. If all of modern inventions and medicines are so wonderful; why are there so many warning labels attached to every modern wonder and all medication commercials scare me to death of the side effects. You know what I am talking about, don’t you?
Here are my thoughts about all of the changes and the proposals of more changes to come.……why not have a “change back” and let us go back to simpler times? Why not treasure a lot of traditional things that this great country of ours was founded upon? Why don’t we practice the golden rule any more? Why don’t we help a neighor out without expecting “media blitz” about a good deed? Why not practice, ” a good day’s work for a good day’s pay”? Why not value our traditional relationships? Why not respect our elders (including parents)? I hope you see where my thoughts are going. I think when we had fun in our lives without trying to change everything which produced almost all of our precious memories; life was good. Think about a change which could be necessary; we need to stop making so many changes to the best country in the world and go back when a man or woman stood for principles and morals. Live Life; Love Life; and Live Life to the fullest by realizing God has never changed; will never change and why change Perfection in How God loves us.


Deuteronomy 31:6 ESV 

Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” 

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TODAY THE WORDS are THE CAN’T HELP ITS. Oh, my country gal side is coming out this morning, so hang on for a good ole country post. How many of you know what I am talking about when I write, “THE CAN’T HELP ITS”? Most of us who live in the South know what it means and I am not sure if this phrase is multi- regional or not. What I can say is the can’t help its has gotten its grip on me this morning.
Maybe a southern made up definition of this phrase might help: 
1) When you wake up and the covers try to kidnap you by not allowing you to get out of bed.
2) When you go to the bathroom first thing in the morning and you look in the mirror and wonder who is that staring at you; and you hurry back to bed to avoid this intruder.
3) When you wonder if a life on welfare would be really be so bad?
4) When you feel you might make someone mad over something you might say; so you decide to not get up and aggravate anyone.
5) When you are dieting and it would mean you have to weigh if you get out of bed; so you put it off as long as possible.
6) When all other excuses haven’t worked so you figure out this day must be Friday the 13th, You don’t check your calendar just in case it’s not Friday the 14th.
Maybe now, you are getting the idea of the power of “THE CANT HELP ITS.”  This condition is to be avoided at all costs as it is very contagious and seems to spread very rapidly. It is the same effect as someone yawning in an office; in a few minutes the entire office is not only yawning; they are absolutely ready to fall asleep. 
Now for the deeper thought……There is a cure! It is very simple and costs nothing to completely do a reversal for this condition…….GET OUT OF THE BED! Fight the covers and make your way out quickly so they don’t wrap around you again. Recognize that intruder in the mirror and love the fact you have the “natural” look down. Remember every nice thing your job allows you to do such as eat, warm and dry place to stay at night and go to work. Realize someone is going to be mad at something someone says so save someone else from that problem and do it yourself. Hit those scales and laugh; laughter is such good medicine and the evil scale will wonder why you are laughing and not crying. Lastly, even if it is Friday the 13th, they have finished the sequels on that movie and you are not likely to run into Jason so go for it…….LIFE IS WAITING TO GIVE YOU GREAT THINGS AND IT JUST CAN’T HELP ITSELF.


For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

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For our freedom, for our freedom of speech and religion; we thank you for your service to our country. Sipping Cups of Inspiration salutes all of our veterans. May God bless you and your families.



TODAY THE WORDS are COLORS OF LAW. Where can I go with this topic, you may ask. In courts, we have heard over and over; the law is clear, and it is either black or white. It is defined by the letter of the law. We have used the terminology to express some event or thinking as black or white. 

Judges speak out after the media hyped cases they had to make their rulings, decisions, or what evidence was entered based on the way the law reads and not their personal beliefs. This is truly stating the black or white description of the law. However, when did moral “laws” become gray? In today’s world, we see a blurring of the moral codes in so many fashions. When children dress so inappropriately, pierce, or tattoo themselves to the point of embarrassment, it seems society has decided these are gray areas and use the terms, “they are just expressing themselves“. 
I realize, as I can imagine so many of the readers are reacting to my statements as judgmental. I would apologize but I go back to my upbringing which was a strict life, but a good life. My parents would not have allowed me or my sister to have gone out of the house with inappropriate dress or makeup. They would not have allowed language I hear children using which is not flattering to them. For the life of me, I don’t even have a clue as to what they would have thought of altering body piercing except for “freaky”. I understand I am stepping on toes, but here is the point, not my point, but an observation. If you expect your children to respect you as a parent, have you thought if they don’t see black and white they get confused on what is acceptable or not. Children look to their parents and yes, they are influenced by celebrities but that isn’t to be used as okay, as all of you can remember we had celebrities too. Thank goodness, most of them kept their clothes on. The gray area is where children get confused and I think parents do too. The point of grayness is controversial and it is still up to the individual parent to voice their approval or disapproval. Why are parents so hesitant about guiding their children or is it a lack of interest? 
Now for the deeper thought……Have parents become distracted from being true parents? Are they occupied with their interests and let the children loose? Have you thought they may be trying to get your attention with their actions? I may be sounding harsh, but my thoughts are some of the actions may go away with age but it is our job as parents to nourish our children and not only with food. Love will become more important if a child feels respected, loved, cherished, and honored. If they respect you; they will follow “most” of your values. Parents earn this respect and have to maintain a black and white rule of developing moral values in their children. Live life, love life, and live life to the fullest with a clear set of moral values and displayed with love.

Ephesians 6:1-4                   
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

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TODAY THE WORD is RETAKE. How many times have you seen a photo and you think I wish I had asked them to do a retake? How many times have you said something and when you saw the other person’s reaction; you thought…RETAKE? Many, many times I have thought, “Oh if I could have a redo or retake.” Haven’t you? I thought so and this is the reason for this topic today.

 re·took  re·tak·en , re·tak·ing, re·takes
1. To take back or again.
2. To recapture.
3. To photograph, film, or record again.

With the definition from The Free Dictionary there are some strong meaning behind this word, retake, such as 1. To take back or again. Here it is; the hardest thing for us mortals to do when we realize we have said or done the wrong thing. It doesn’t matter what our intentions were; the scars are there. An example would be when a person who fights gaining weight and is trying again and it seems this person has the hardest time with his or her struggle. In an attempt to sympathize with this person, another person who may never know how hard it can be says, “Wow, you have the hardest time losing weight!” No bad intention was intended but to this person who struggles with this problem day in and day out usually reacts defensively. They may feel they seem like a failure to the person who said this statement. Once said, it seems to be non-retrievable much less re-taken. 

People who struggle with personal problems; people who have financial problems; or people who have disabilities; and even diseases are more sensitive to other’s opinions; especially when the other person has no experience in these matters. If I were a wealthy person do you feel I could have a great impact on a poverty stricken down on their luck person by telling them to “Be positive and get up and change your life.” We need to choose our words wisely as “retakes” are almost impossible. I mentioned in the beginning about seeing a photo and wishing we could do a retake. However, even if we try it is hard to capture that moment exactly with the sun going behind a cloud; the true expression of surprise; or even getting everyone in the same positions. 

Now for the deeper thought…..LIFE goes around one time and there are no retakes unless you believe in reincarnation. My thoughts are I am not going to count on reincarnation to get things in my life right; I am going to pray for forgiveness from God but also from others. Pride cannot be a hindrance as we should step forward and instead; do a retake by asking the person who was hurt to forgive you. Notice 2. above To recapture. If we are sincere and with love in our hearts; we have an opportunity to recapture the good feeling with this person and as importantly; with God. Live Life; Love Life; and Live Life to the fullest by trying our best to get it right the first time; but if we have to retake something in our life let’s make sure we do a great retake.


Colossians 3:17 ESV 

And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. 

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TODAY THE WORDS are HITTING THE MARK. No, my fellow gun lovers, this post is not about gun control but is dedicated to marksmanship in life. In other words, how sharp are our skills in our daily living? When I was old enough to learn to shoot, my father took me as well as my other siblings to practice shooting the safe way, the correct way, and the accurate way. He knew what he was talking about since he was a policeman and had gone through the department training. I learned how to steady the gun, make sure I had the target in sight, and fire at the target. I shot many cans, jugs, and other home made targets (didn’t have printed targets). Lately, I have two young cousins I see going to the target range and it seems to be a great sport for them. When I see hunters who have made a “good kill” with a deer or hog; they are so proud of their accomplishments of hitting their mark. I don’t hunt but a lot of people love the sport and the food they provide from their hunting. 

This memory takes me to my deeper thought……..Hitting the mark in life takes the same effort. We take on a lot of responsibility in life (well the responsible person takes on responsibilities and the others freeload). We work; we have relationships; and then families. We have financial goals, and we have plans for retirement; or do we? Do we stand straight with shoulders erect; do we get our target in sight; do we plant our feet firmly to steady the course; and do we consistently practice doing what will make us better at hitting the mark? 

It is the same in parenting as children respond to consistent parent responses and remain consistent in their reactions if this is practiced. Once a child sees that Mommy or Daddy stand straight; they are consistent, firm but not angry, and no means no and yes means yes; they want to wiggle and move out of your sight. Relationships, without the steady input of expressions of love, caring, support become hard to aim at being the most loving and stable. Work without the commitment to excel and that takes plenty of practice to be creative, punctual, and focused. Financial goals fit in this continuous practice and strong determination to “hit the mark” is necessary for all of us who want to see the stockpile of successful marks on our target. Life is a shooting range for us and we need practice, determination, focus and a steady stance to hit our mark. May we aim straight, may we stand firm and may we understand the importance of practicing until we get it right. Aim for the bulls-eye in our spiritual side as “missed” will not count in eternity.

Matthew 7:21-23 (King James Version)

7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.

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TODAY THE WORDS are GOD TOOK TIME WITH BUTTERFLIES.  A dear friend of mine loves butterflies and she posts pictures of butterflies almost every day on social media. I see them, I think they are beautiful; but until this morning when she posted a composite which I have displayed on this page, I didn’t have the inspiration before. I looked at this picture longer than usual and with a lot more depth visually and then the spiritual connection became evident. Let’s look at the life of a butterfly and I think you will realize (you may already know) why God took extra time in creating so many varieties, so many sizes, so many colors, and so much beauty. In the beginning of life, after the egg stage which is attached to the leaf, the caterpillar stage begins. The caterpillar (or larva) is the long, worm-like stage of the butterfly or moth. It often has an interesting pattern of stripes or patches, and it may have spine-like hairs. It is the feeding and growth stage. As it grows, it sheds its skin four or more times so as to enclose its rapidly growing body.
The chrysalis (or pupa) is the transformation stage within which the caterpillar tissues are broken down and the adult insect’s structures are formed. The chrysalis of most species is brown or green and blends into the background. Many species overwinter in this stage. The adult (or imago) is colorful butterfly or moth usually seen. It is the reproductive and mobile stage for the species. The adults undergo courtship, mating, and egg-laying. The adult butterfly or moth is also the stage that migrates or colonizes new habitats.

As we see, the butterfly goes through many stages before it gets to the magnificent display of art as shown on the left and above.


God must have wanted us to see how life can be for all of us with the journey of the butterfly. We go through so many stages and some of them are awkward and sometimes it takes long periods of time before life becomes brilliant and colorful and people begin to show “their true colors of life”. God sent us a message to be patient like his masterpiece and to be watchful, careful, understanding, and faithful to the cause and purpose of our being. When we reach our full beauty in our soul, then we fly with God like the wonderful butterfly.

2 Corinthians 5:17                

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 

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TODAY THE WORD is DESIRE. Since I have changed my eating to a healthier process, I have thought about the fattening, delicious foods which are no longer on my menu. I say this to certainly describe what I consider the perfect description of the topic of today, “Desire”. Oh, yes, I have desired those sugary, high fat foods, and especially junk food, but I “desire” good health more! I found a quote by Napoleon Hill describing how “desire” is so important to the achievement of any attempt. Here it is:
“The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small fire makes a small amount of heat.”
– Napoleon Hill (Think and Grow Rich)
I find this very important in our life. Let’s go to our thoughts for a minute and think back on our own history and how the events, challenges, goals, etc. were accomplished by a “desire” to make them happen. When we see disabled people, male or female accomplishing what society would deem impossible, and we look at their faces; see the desire and the determination. I feel determination is the dessert at the meal of desire; we want it (or desire) so much that we create a determination to achieve that desire. Desire can be an enemy of life if directed in the wrong direction. Desire for unhealthy foods; desire for popularity or center of attention; desire for inappropriate behavior; or a desire to be non responsible in a relationship, work, or community. Desire, directed into healthy, moral, kind, and/or charitable acts will develop an incredible determination to “make it happen”. We start setting goals, we start the action which will develop results, and we get the right mind set for success. 
Now for the deeper thought…..Do we condition ourselves to desire “unhealthy” things or actions or do we constantly keep our thoughts, mind, and souls desiring the healthy, moral, and charitable choices? God has commissioned us to seek the word and act accordingly. We have been given the choice of making choices. If desire is the starting point, I feel parents insert this action into their children. Are our children being exposed to good events, healthy food, moral issues, etc. or do we, as parents, only show our children the things popular with society and celebrities. When I look at the popular celebrities, I fail to see good examples with the exception of a very few. Desire the positive and be determined to build on the positive influence that goodness can develop.

Psalm 37:4                      
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

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TODAY THE WORD is HAYRIDE. Maybe it is my hay fever taking me back to my experience of hayrides. I am not sure if they even have hayrides anymore, but in my childhood, I was privy to several; I think every child needs to experience at least one hayride. Usually the hayride coincided with Halloween or fall festivals and were mostly sponsored by local churches. The farmers helped by furnishing the trailer complete with bales of hay, sometimes loose hay for all of us to sit on or fall in which happened quite frequently. The time was set normally to start this ride through the country side at dusk. The objective was to get all of us children excited with a little fear thrown in for good measure. The slow ride accompanied by the sound of the tractor was supplemented by a lot of yelling, a few screams, and the attempted campsite song of broken choruses when the trailer would hit a hole or bump in the road. Oh, it was funny and scary at the same time. Once in a while, someone would fall in the hay, not serious enough to injure, but silly enough to cause laughter and giggling. The trail would sometimes stop at a cemetery, where church members (adults who were the biggest kids in the world) were hiding behind tall tombstones to scare the daylights out of us. The running started then with the “big kids” laughing their heads off. Everybody was loaded again, and off we would go, laughing and some girls crying since they didn’t see the humor in the scary events in the graveyard. 

A good many of us can recall the hayrides of their youth and usually it is with a laugh or smile attached to those times. We can remember the scary parts of the hayride and we also can recall other times in our lives we have been scared by other means. The good part is we lived through those times and have entertaining stories to tell.

Now for the deeper thought…..I feel some indoctrination into the “scary” parts of life are healthy for children. Parents teach children to trust in them by being there for the support and for the safety from the “boogie man”. God is our Father and we are exposed to some scary times in our lives and we need to remember the lesson of the hay ride. We are going to be scared in life; we have to trust in God to make it all go away and allow us to load back on the life trailer and keep riding. Life can be fun and at the same time a little frightening so if we make sure God is on every hay ride; we are going to have a good time and make it over the holes and the bumps in the road.

1 Corinthians 3:12, 13
Now if any man build upon this foundation gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, stubble;
their work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each person’s work.

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 TODAY THE WORDS are THE LAST WORD. Throughout history, people have striven to have the last word. We will argue a single subject over and over; sometimes forgetting what started the argument but we seem driven to have “the last word“. I have been watching the upcoming election political (or may I say unsavory) ads and it seems to be more important to smash the other candidate rather than give an intelligent plan and path to bettering the office they are seeking. This has brought me to the focus of this message but not in a political point. The last word topic is for a different reason and hopefully, it will be a message and not the last word. 

When is the last word really the last word? As a young woman, I was a strong personality. I felt I had a voice and mistakenly so; I felt I had to use it anytime I felt threatened. I would argue “until the cows came home” and it seemed to be more important that I win the argument more than the point of the argument. I imagine several of you have been in my shoes and have experienced the argument of your lifetime. In other words, we argued for argument sake. In so many cases, we argue issues of either non importance or wasted arguments on those issues people are destined to never agree. Is the one who has the last word the winner of the argument or is there such a thing as a winner of an argument?
Is there a true winner of an argument? Maybe yes or Maybe no is my response. I feel what we may gain as the “winner” of an argument is a false sense of accomplishment. In a discussion, and not an argument; both parties are in states of respect and more open minded to the differences. With a tone of respect, I find in a discussion; more avenues of communication are opened and less close mindedness is predominant. Of course, in a healthy discussion we can learn from each other. I know I have learned when I am listening. I think of the statement about why we were given two ears and one mouth and smile. Is there a true winner of an argument; I think not as most people harbor bad thoughts which seem to linger longer about harsh words spoken in an argument more than they do on the reason for the argument.
Now for the deeper thought…..and I do not want to argue (LOL). We have opportunities for intelligent discussions, using our brains and rationality rather than loud and aggressive words. One good point may be to remember……HARSH WORDS ARE HARD TO SWALLOW and DON’T SAY THE WRONG THING and HAVE TO EAT YOUR WORDS. Oh, none of us are going to stop having an occasional argument; we are human. We can, however, focus on discussing differences rather than having “the last word”. Live Life; Love Life; and Live Life to the fullest by knowing the one having the last word will be God.

Matthew 16:26 

For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?

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