Sometimes the best friend comes in a furry body, my daughter Missy and her best bud Luna.

TODAY THE WORDS are INGREDIENTS IN A FRIEND. I think I can speak on this subject very profoundly as I have been blessed with a great assortment of friends throughout my lifetime. Some have come and gone out of my life; some have been there for a lifetime; some are very close and we keep in touch; and some are my infrequent friends with whom I communicate rarely but they are still dear to me. In thinking about friends and a person who loves to cook, I thought I would come up with a recipe for those friends we can’t do without (kind of like chocolate cake) and this was my thoughts:

Recipe for a Friend Cake:

First, find a person or maybe they will find you.
Blend your likes and their likes and see if they mix together.
Stir up some fun and laughter.
Slow down the mixer and just chill.
Add some sugar and some seasonings as it has to be sweet but spicy.
If the batter starts to separate, stir it again as you want it all to stay together.
Pour it in a pan making sure you don’t leave any of it left behind.
Bake with love, caring, sacrifice and charity to each other.
Savor the taste of friendship and enjoy each bite of life.
If the slice breaks, do everything you can to put it back together.
And if you have to stop enjoying your friend cake, keep the memory of the taste.
The good times, the sad times, the silly times and the times you wish you could do over again.

The next time you start to make a new friend cake, make sure you have all of the ingredients for being a great friend to them. Live life; love life; and live life to the fullest by adding friends to your life and keep the dear friends you already have!

Here is an excerpt from an interesting article about friendship:

The True Meaning Of Friendship by Alex Lickerman, MD

  1. Common interests. This probably ties us closer to our friends than many would like to admit. When our interests diverge and we can find nothing to enjoy jointly, time spent together tends to rapidly diminish. Not that we can’t still care deeply about friends with whom we no longer share common interests, but it’s probably uncommon for such friends to interact on a regular basis.
  2. History. Nothing ties people together, even people with little in common, than having gone through the same difficult experience. As the sole glue to keep friendships whole in the long run, however, it often dries, cracks, and ultimately fails.
  3. Common values. Though not necessarily enough to create a friendship, if values are too divergent, it’s difficult for a friendship to thrive.
  4. Equality. If one friend needs the support of the other on a consistent basis such that the person depended upon receives no benefit other than the opportunity to support and encourage, while the relationship may be significant and valuable, it can’t be said to define a true friendship.

  1. A commitment to your happiness. A true friend is consistently willing to put your happiness before your friendship. It’s said that “good advice grates on the ear,” but a true friend won’t refrain from telling you something you don’t want to hear, something that may even risk fracturing the friendship, if hearing it lies in your best interest. A true friend will not lack the mercy to correct you when you’re wrong. A true friend will confront you with your drinking problem as quickly as inform you about a malignant-looking skin lesion on your back that you can’t see yourself.
  2. Not asking you to place the friendship before your principles. A true friend won’t ask you to compromise your principles in the name of your friendship or anything else. Ever.
  3. A good influence. A true friend inspires you to live up to your best potential, not to indulge your basest drives.
You can check out the friendly article by clicking on the link above. 

Proverbs 18:24                    

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

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Once in a while, we come across something we wrote or others’ writings and it puts a fresh thought in our minds. This morning I saw a post of mine from 2012 on FEARLESSNESS. It seems so appropriate for this time in our lives with the uncertainty in the political world, violence, distrust, and the restless world. FEAR is trying to take over the world shaking our foundation to its core. While I was reading my own words, I realized how easy it is to become fearful and from this message, I am reminding myself and all of you, we need to be FEARLESS and soar not crouch in a corner. Take on life with a zest unmatched by history. 

Here is an excerpt from an article on 4 Signs that Fear is Controlling Your Life (And 4 Ways to Stop It)

1.  You think more about what is going wrong than what is going right2 Now there was no water for the community, and the people gathered in opposition to Moses and Aaron. 3 They quarreled with Moses and said, “If only we had died when our brothers fell dead before the Lord! 4 Why did you bring the Lord’s community into this wilderness, that we and our livestock should die here? 5 Why did you bring us up out of Egypt to this terrible place? It has no grain or figs, grapevines or pomegranates. And there is no water to drink!”NUMBERS 20:2-5Studying the Israelites’ journey into the promised land in Exodus and Numbers is a great way to learn lessons about fear. The Israelites were constantly afraid that they wouldn’t be taken care of, despite God’s reassurance and miracles. In the scripture above, God had brought the Israelites right to the border of the promised land, and was about to bring them into it, yet all they could see were the things that were going wrong. Their fear made them miss the great things God was doing. He also had plans to provide them with plenty of water if they would just ask (Numbers 20:8).What good things is God doing in your life right now? Are you more focused on what is going wrong than where God is leading you? Take time to fight your fears by writing out 10 things that you are grateful God has done in your life, past or present.2. You can easily think of worst-case scenarios This was their report to Moses: “We entered the land you sent us to explore, and it is indeed a bountiful country—a land flowing with milk and honey. Here is the kind of fruit it produces. 28 But the people living there are powerful, and their towns are large and fortified. We even saw giants there, the descendants of Anak! 29 The Amalekites live in the Negev, and the Hittites, Jebusites, and Amorites live in the hill country. The Canaanites live along the coast of the Mediterranean Sea[a] and along the Jordan Valley.”30 But Caleb tried to quiet the people as they stood before Moses. “Let’s go at once to take the land,” he said. “We can certainly conquer it!”31 But the other men who had explored the land with him disagreed. “We can’t go up against them! They are stronger than we are!”NUMBERS 13:27-31 (NLT)Instead of seeing that God wanted to bring them into a great place, the Israelites saw all that could go wrong. They didn’t want to fight because they were convinced that they would lose.  When you think about your future, do you spend more time thinking of all that could go wrong or all that could go right?Caleb faithfully believed that good things could happen, and he was rewarded for that (Numbers 14:24). What good things have you been afraid to pray for in your future, your job, or your family? Pick 2-3 of those things to start praying for daily.3. You don’t believe God wants to help youThey said to all the people of Israel, “The land we traveled through and explored is a wonderful land! 8 And if the Lord is pleased with us, he will bring us safely into that land and give it to us. It is a rich land flowing with milk and honey. 9 Do not rebel against the Lord, and don’t be afraid of the people of the land. They are only helpless prey to us! They have no protection, but the Lord is with us! Don’t be afraid of them!”NUMBERS 14:7-9Joshua and Caleb were able to overcome their fear because they believed God would help them. The circumstances might have been stacked against them, but they believed God was more powerful and he was on their side.Sometimes we get fearful because our view of God is wrong – we don’t think he cares or will guide our lives in a really good way. Do you believe God will take care of you? Why or why not? Take time to pray about your answer to this question and then study out scriptures about who God is to challenge your thoughts about him.4. You feel like you don’t have time for relationships14 When Moses’ father-in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he asked, “What are you really accomplishing here? Why are you trying to do all this alone while everyone stands around you from morning till evening?”15 Moses replied, “Because the people come to me to get a ruling from God. 16 When a dispute arises, they come to me, and I am the one who settles the case between the quarreling parties. I inform the people of God’s decrees and give them his instructions.”17 “This is not good!” Moses’ father-in-law exclaimed. 18 “You’re going to wear yourself out—and the people, too. This job is too heavy a burden for you to handle all by yourself.EXODUS 18:14-17Even a great leader like Moses struggled with fear (Exodus 3-4). When faced with the pressures of leading all the Israelites, Moses decided the best way to handle the stress was to do everything himself. Ever been there? Fear makes us think we need to be in control and do everything ourselves. We start to cut out time to spend with friends who help our emotional and spiritual well-being so we can get things done.
Spiritual relationships are meant to relieve our burdens and stress, not add to them (Hebrews 3:12-13). What relationships has God put in your life to help you with your faith? This week, take time to let down and connect with one of those friends each day, whether through text, email, phone call or grabbing a quick cup of coffee. Even a short amount of time letting down about our stresses and emotions with spiritual friends will bring relief and refreshment.

FEARLESSNESS is a sign of strength and is a great gift. When successful people, who by the way, usually “fail” many times before they succeed are evaluated one of the most common traits is FEARLESSNESS. A good tip to remember in life: If your fear you are going to fall of a bicycle outweighs your desire to learn to ride one; you will never become a biker. 

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ONE WORD AT A TIME is on my mind this morning and I thought I would spend some time on this thought with you. I am in the process of the first edit on the second book in my series REFLECTIONS OF LOVE and I find it intriguing how one word can make a significant difference.  If one word in an entire book can alter the theme of the book or the depiction of a character, how important are our words spoken or written to other people? Have you ever said something you meant a certain way only to have someone think you meant an entirely different meaning? How many misunderstandings occur from a text or voice mail? Each word has the potential to enhance, encourage or discourage another human being. Let’s break this down and consider what we say.
Here is one of my original quotes on Arline’s Little Quotes on the blog and I will give you an example of how one word can change the entire quote:

Hate is not because of a person’s skin color; hate is because it is hate! Love is blind so it is the absence of love which causes racism. Point in check; racism is not limited to one color and that is why I know racism is hate in any color. ALM

Is Hate not because of a person’s skin color;…………

By this simple change of position in the sentence, it now brings up a question instead of a statement and can accelerate a negative thought instead of a well meant statement. Do you see how even the positioning as well as words can change a mood, a position, or encourage anger or confusion? One word at a time spoken in a positive or negative tone can make a world of difference.

In an excerpt from an interesting article, I found an excellent demonstration on the power of words:

Words Have Power by Jack Shafer Find: https://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/jack-schafer-phd
Words have power. Choose them wisely.
Posted Nov 02, 2010
If the word “interrogation” were used instead of the word “interview,” the likelihood increases that investigators would assume that the person being questioned is guilty. Interviewers view interrogations as adversarial and, at some point prior to interrogations, they either consciously or unconsciously form the opinion that the interviewee is guilty to some degree. If this were not the case, then the interviewers would be conducting interviews not interrogations. 

The interview/interrogation paradigm creates two negative primacy filters. The first negative primacy filter is that the interrogation will be confrontational. If interviewers go into the interrogation with the preconceived notion that the suspect will be confrontational, then the interrogation will likely become confrontational because the interviewers will tend to interpret anything the suspect says or does through the filter of confrontation. Interviewers begin interrogations with a heightened sensitivity to confrontation; therefore, the slightest provocation by the suspect triggers responses that are more aggressive because interviewers anticipate confrontations. The same actions that interviewers perceive as aggressive during interrogations would probably be judged as less aggressive or neutral during interviews because interviewers perceive interviews as non-confrontational. The second negative filter is that interviewers will likely view the interviewees as guilty before the interrogations commence and perceive everything the interviewees say or do as support of their guilt and discount or excuse away any evidence that does not support their preconceived notion of guilt.

An alternative approach to the interview/interrogation paradigm places the inquiry process on a resistance continuum. At one end of the continuum, interviewees offer information without resistance. At the other end, interviewees are reluctant to provide information or fall silent. This concept allows investigators to glide back and forth along the resistance continuum using a succession of specialized interviewing techniques to overcome varying degrees of resistance. Interviewers need only focus on the appropriate selection of interviewing techniques to overcome resist¬ance from witnesses and suspects alike. As the interviewee’s resistance increases or decreases, the interviewer adjusts the intensity of the inquiry by selecting the suitable interviewing technique to overcome the interviewee’s resistance.

Words have strong messages and inflections to those who are listening and/or reading. What we have to remember is the reception as well as the deliverance of our speech. I am not preaching to the choir as I have been misunderstood many times without intentionally mis-speaking. One wrong word may change a relationship, friendship, employment, etc. If we choose our words carefully and maybe do some “editing” in our lives, we can enjoy great conversations and lives. LIVE LIFE; LOVE LIFE; LIFE LIFE TO THE FULLEST BY SPEAKING WORDS OF WISDOM. 

The Bible speaks of the power of words:

There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear

For 100 BIBLE VERSES about the power of words, go to: https://www.openbible.info/topics/power_of_words

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Thursday, SEPTEMBER 22, 2016


TODAY THE WORDS are TRIPPING OVER OUR OWN FEET. I have been giving the state of “us” referring to the majority of people in our country. It brought a thought for the topic. We seem to be tripping over our own feet and hopefully this will describe some of  our actions in a simple thought. 
Growing up, or even now, do you remember having a pair of shoes with shoe laces or even without laces which seemed to make walking difficult. A specific pair without laces which comes to mind quickly was a pair of high heeled shoes with some kind of scuff resistant soles to avoid slipping. The only problem was this type of sole was too rigid and anti slip material. If anything, this produced a hard to move forward action which caused me to almost tumble several times. Instead of a crazy slide across the floor; I had an abrupt halt and a forward movement which wasn’t natural so I would tumble forward. I disposed of those shoes and went back to slipping and sliding. In other words, I was tired of tripping over my own feet.

It seems to me, we are tripping over our own feet in our actions too. We say we want racism to go away but I see actions on all sides of ethnic groups encouraging the “conversations” which ignite the tensions instead of sitting down and finding out what it would take for people to recognize the problems and resolve to solve those problems for “all” people. I see people who have valid concerns about paying so much taxes, while people who could work are on welfare. Instead of attacking those people; why don’t we fix the laws? Here we go tripping over our own feet! We complain about our government, politicians, laws, and policies; how many vote for changes in who makes our laws? By not voting is the same as when you don’t take the time to tie the shoe laces and then you keep yelling when you trip over them. We talk about freedom of religion and we don’t stop and think the total meaning of this freedom…….ALL Religions to be practiced without condemnation. It is not freedom of a single religion; it encompasses all religions with an opportunity for me to practice my beliefs and you to practice yours. What it shouldn’t be is one religion to be forced on all people. Freedom to be equal in person no matter what race we are; freedom to be able to believe our own choice of religion is the true depiction of freedom in itself. It would help all of us to pick up our feet and quit tripping over our own individual demands and get it together as a human race. It can’t be the white race, the black race; the rich or the poor; the democrats or republicans; the Christians or the other religions; the believers and/or non believers. God loves us all. We can believe the way we believe and let God work through all of us.

Now for the deeper thought………Life requires participation and not just observation! If your laces are untied; tie them. If you continue to walk with the laces untied; expect to trip. Bending down and taking a few minutes to do what it takes to make your walk through life smoother and safer takes an effort. Life will trip you up even if your laces are tied; that is just life. Pick yourself up and let’s move forward. Just as I had to dispose of those aggravating shoes; sometimes you have to make changes. If you are not working; keep trying to find a job. If you are working; see if you can help someone who is not working find work. Live life; love life; and live life to the fullest by picking up your feet by doing the necessary actions to walk smoothly.


2 Corinthians 3:17 ESV

Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.

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MISERY LOVES COMPANY is the theme for today. I am bringing back a post I Believingays to Stop Feeling Miserable and Start Being Happy | Huffington …
I think you will enjoy the following post about Miser
TODAY THE WORD is MISERY. Isn’t this a switcheroo? Miss Positive herself, is writing about misery. I was driving yesterday for several hours and this word came to mind about how people encourage misery in their lives. Why, you may ask, would anyone encourage misery since no one desires to be miserable. I don’t know if any of you watched the movie, Misery, with James Caan, Kathy Bates, that was filmed in 1990. It is a grueling story of how one fan became so obsessed with an author she kept him captive and made him write the next book. She subjected him to so much misery and pain. I see people who subjectively put themselves in misery and pain by the choices they make.
Life throws people enough curves on its own without us making it simpler for life to cheat us out of the blessings that are meant to come our way. How is this possible for one to encourage misery as it seems more natural for us to want happiness, peace and contentment? For some reason, and it may be subconsciously hidden, I think people who have low self esteem crave attention and that opens some doors that should remain shut. Any attention is better than none; and therefore the problem manifests itself. The victim status comes into play. No one likes me; I am not pretty enough; I can’t find a job; my spouse doesn’t treat me right; I am too fat or I am too skinny; and on and on until the person starts believing they are a victim. I am a compassionate person but I say do not encourage “playing victimitis” when you hear someone make the comments seeking attention. True hardships as I was speaking earlier warrant our compassion while at the same time, compassion given to the attention deprived victim is harmful. In place of the compassion, give encouragement in the good things about the person to build the self esteem is my philosophy.
Why add misery to misery by agreeing with a trivial whine? Could we try when someone says something negative, to say something positive? Misery loves company, so help that person out of their “misery status” to a more productive status. “I can’t find a job” may be an opening to “Where have you been looking” or “Have you tried there?” instead of “I know, you won’t be able to find a job in this town”. Happy people have bad days too: they just deal with them better. Don’t invite Misery in for dinner; it may never leave!

Proverbs 15:15-16

15 A miserable heart means a miserable life; a cheerful heart fills the day with song. 16 A simple life in the Fear-of-God is better than a rich life with a ton of headaches.

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DOGGIE TEATS, GOOD OR BAD IDEA? I had posted the original message below when our dog Buster was a puppy. He is now 3 years old and has his tricks down very well. I thought we should look at this idea of treating dogs to learn tricks.

Original Post: TODAY THE WORDS are DOGGIE TREATS. I am in the process of teaching our puppy, Buster a few tricks. He is smart and learns quickly. He has mastered the combination of “the high five; the other (meaning the other paw for high five); up on back legs, and then down to a lying position; and the bark on command. All of these are done without me saying anything and using hand signals. Since he has been doing this combination very well with a treat given on the conclusion of each set, he understands he has to do his routine before the treat is given. I have progressed to the “dance around” which he does dance around several times before the treat. This week has been the “walk” and even though it is similar to the dance around with him up on his hind legs, he has mastered the difference and walked about 5-6 feet this morning with Greg watching. Of course, he had his treat to reward him. Here is the funny part, and Greg tells me I am silly when I do this. Bandit was not taught tricks ( he was already grown when we rescued him) but I go over during the training session with Buster and ask Bandit if he wants to do tricks. I have to lift one leg and say “Give me five” and then I have to lift the other leg and say “other”. Then I say Good Boy and give him a treat. I know he thinks that is his trick to get me to do the work and he gets the treat. It is funny to us and allows him to be included. He sits on command and we love him dearly. The treats come when they go out in the morning for their “business” and Buster knows to lead me into the kitchen to the “treat cabinet” and nudge the door. As smart and mischievous as Buster is; one day he will have it opened and feasting. The treats are a reward for a good job so that brings me to the deeper thought of this message….God is our life trainer and during our life, we are going through a spiritual training. Right at first, as puppies, we are taught the basics from our parents and they reward us throughout our childhood with “worldly” treats such as clothing, bikes, games, phones, etc. and we usually flourish and learn new tricks of life as we grow. We are taught to behave, speak when it is appropriately, do our chores and schoolwork, and sports if that is part of what we learn. When we grow up, we actually take on the role of trainer and repeat to our children the “tricks” of life we learned. Again, treats are given and so on, life goes. The best “feat” or “trick of life” we need to learn is life is life and as important as it seems with all of the training; the most important part is how we earn the best, most flavorful, long lasting (as a matter of fact, it is eternal) reward…..Eternity with our Creator and God. We will “Give Five, Other, Jump Up and Lay Down and Bark along with Walking and Dancing in the presence of Our Loved Ones and we can sit at Our Lord’s feet. I know Buster loves his doggie treats, but I will love to be one of us to receive God’s reward for believing in Him, loving Him above all else, and worshipping Him. Live Life, Love Life, and Live Life to the fullest by seeking the truth and knowledge to take us to our Heavenly Treat.

I found a great article on Using Food When Training on The Association of Professional Dog Trainers. Here is the article and the site you can check out for great training ideas: https://apdt.com/pet-owners/choosing-a-trainer/food/ 

Why Do Trainers Use Food When Training?
1. What do Rewards Have to do with it?It’s poetic to think that dogs live to please their masters, but the reality is that dogs live to please themselves. When we ask our dogs to do something, the first thought racing through their heads is, “What’s in it for me right now?” Behaviors that are rewarded are statistically more likely to be repeated, so when we regularly reward our dogs for a job well done, they’ll want to keep showing up for work! Not all rewards are created equal, and understanding what your dog finds rewarding is an important step in the training process.2. Using Food in TrainingFood can be a very valuable reinforcer (paycheck!) for dogs during training. It’s one of a very short list of things that dogs are born already knowing is good. While most dogs easily learn to enjoy praise, petting and play – all of which also make good rewards — food still holds a special place in their mind due to its primal nature.Some people express concern about using food in training, worried they will create a dog who will only work if he knows there’s food. This is a valid concern, as it can happen if food is mis-used. The trick is to make sure that food is being used as a reward and not a bribe. There’s a big difference!When we ask our dogs to do something, the first thought racing through their heads is, “What’s in it for me right now?”3. Reward vs. BribeIf you ask the dog to do something, he does it, and you give him a treat, that treat is a reward. If you ask the dog to do something he knows how to do, a behavior that he has demonstrated repeatedly on request for a long period of time, and he doesn’t do it, maybe you ask again. If he STILL doesn’t do it, and when you then reach into your pocket and get a treat, and all of the sudden the dog springs into action to comply with your original request, THAT treat just became a bribe! You asked him to do it, he didn’t, you got food, and he decided to get to work. Good training strives to avoid this.4. Preventing BriberyThe trick is to get the visual presence of the food out of the learning picture as soon as possible. For example, when lure-training (think cookie on the dog’s nose and over his head to achieve a sit), you want to get the cookie off his nose just as soon as you see him grasp the physical mechanics of the behavior. At that point, start using the same gesture minus the cookie, and reward the dog with a treat from your pocket once his rear is on the floor. This helps teach the dog the important lesson that he must successfully do the work before you’re willing to dole out the reward.Another important tip for preventing accidental bribery is to make sure you have your dog’s attention before asking him to do something. Often, people resort to bribery because the dog didn’t respond the first time they asked – but when they asked, the dog wasn’t even paying attention. Try to avoid talking to your dog’s tail end! Before asking your dog to sit, lie down, or come when you call him, do your best to make sure he’s looking at you. Teach him to respond quickly to his name, so that when he’s distracted, using his name will prompt him to check in, at which point you can ask for the next behavior. You want him to respond to his name with the same enthusiasm that he responds to the words “Do you want a treat?”5. Using Life Rewards in Addition to Food TreatsOnce your dog is reliably responding to your hand-signals, begin to vary how he gets his rewards. Sometimes use a treat, but often times, use something else he’s telling you he wants – like his leash put on to go for a walk, his favorite toy to be thrown, or an invitation to join you on the couch for snuggle time. By using these types of “life rewards,” you’re teaching your dog that keeping you happy by complying with your requests is the key to opening the door to everything good in his world – not just food treats! This also allows you to use food randomly – as a surprise – which is extremely exciting for dogs, and often motivates them to work even harder.Tricks of the Trade Treat Tips

  • Use soft treats and make them small – about the size of a pea. Small, soft treats can be eaten quickly, which aids in your timing as a trainer. Using small treats allows you to be generous without over-feeding your dog. Dogs don’t care how big each cookie is; they’re more impressed by how many they get.
  • Try different types of treats. A dog treat doesn’t have to be labeled as such on the package. Bits of cooked meats, cheese, hotdogs, pasta, dry cereal and even fruits and vegetables can be rewarding to dogs. Experiment to discover what really excites him.
  • Remember that what’s exciting at home may fail in comparison to the distracting sights and smells out in public. Save your “extra special’ treats for training in distracting environments.
  • Get into the habit of petting your dog as you deliver the treat. Don’t simply be a Pez dispenser. When you consistently pair petting with treats, you raise the value of your touch. Now you have another way to pay your dog: petting!
  • If your dog has dietary restrictions and cannot tolerate many foods besides his kibble, you can use kibble for his training. To make it seem more interesting, put some in a baggie with a few chunks of cut up hot dog. The kibble will take on the hot dog smell.
  • Don’t over do it! The goal is to achieve a trained dog – not a trained, yet pudgy pupdog! Consider cutting back a bit on what goes into your dog’s food bowl and/or set aside a portion of his kibble and use that for training.  (End of article reference)

 I hope you enjoyed this post. All of us who love our pets go to huge efforts to show them love and they pay us back ten fold.

Matthew 25:21          

His master said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.’
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TODAY THE WORDS are Y’ALL COME. In the south where we live, born and raised, it is common to hear the expression “Y’all come” and southern hospitality is known to be the best. Today, I had a thought, even though we say that, we are actually hoping, “Y’all come but not all at one time“. Our Mother loved attention and for people to come to see her, but she liked it when they spaced the visits out and crowds seem to make her a little nervous. I think back to all of us going out to my Grandparents on Daddy’s side. Most of his siblings and their children went there for Sunday dinner. I never see tables as long as the one we ate, and they had two of them side by side. 
One thing I remember is the adults ate first and the children last, which is the exact opposite from today. I have not figured out which way is the best way due to a couple of thoughts. 1) if the children are fed first, they don’t seem as restless but 2) it was looked as a form of respect and lesson that sometimes in life you have to wait to get what you want. I see both sides of this coin so I don’t make a call on how I feel about this change of tradition. 
I reflect back on how much work it was for Granny Lott who cooked and served it all. It had to be so tiring for her but I remember her hugs. She didn’t say “I love you” but somehow I always felt love from her. I was telling the story yesterday of how she made “cat head” biscuits and made her own white sugar syrup. She would poke a hole in one of those biscuits and fill it with syrup and give it to me. She would tell me to go in the yard and eat it. That was her way of spoiling me, I think. That memory stays with me for all time. We were so busy having such a good time of playing with our cousins, and the adults were so busy telling their tales, and no one seemed to notice how much Granny worked. I now wonder when I have a lot of company and I know fully well how much work it is, did Granny ever think, “Y’all come but not all at one time”. Reminiscing those times has helped me be more considerate of others’ times and energy. If we do unto others as we would like for others to do unto us, this world would be a little easier for everyone. God wants us to practice The Golden Rule as it takes into a lot of His Teachings. Be kind, not blind to the needs of others.

I thought some of you might enjoy the recipe for Cat Head Biscuits and the link to a great story about another lady who remembers her Grandmother making them:

By Susan M. Thigpen © 1999 Old Fashioned Cat Head Biscuits 

Now, how do you reproduce those biscuits today? I will give you a recipe and some pointers.
2 cups self rising flour
1 cup buttermilk
a lump of solid shortening the size of a walnut. This can be real butter, margarine, lard or solid vegetable shortening. This has to be at room temperature to blend smoothly into the dough. Do not, and I repeat, do not use a soft dairy spread – they contain so much water that they won’t work for any baking purposes.
In a large mixing bowl, put the flour. Most flours today do not need to be sifted. Push the flour to the sides of the bowl to form a depression in the center. Place the shortening and a little of the milk in the center and start stirring with a big spoon. When the shortening is blended, add the rest of the milk, mixing just until blended and the dough forms a ball. The dough will be a little on the moist side.
Place wax paper on a flat surface like your kitchen table and sprinkle flour on it. Roll the dough out on the wax paper. Do not handle the dough any more than you have to – it makes the biscuits tough. The less you handle it and the more moist the dough, the better your biscuits will be. Just pat the dough gently until it’s about an inch and a half thick.
Then cut out the biscuits. Do you know what I use for a biscuit cutter? I use a tin can that I cut both the bottom and top out of and removed the label. A one pound vegetable can is a good size. Cut out your biscuits and place in a greased pan. The pan can be either glass or metal, but be sure it is small enough so that the biscuits are all close together, touching – Remember, you want the biscuits to rise up, not out to the side. Another reason for this is that when the biscuits bake with their sides touching, you can pull them apart easily, but those sides will be very soft and tender, not hard and brown. This is a very important part of making good biscuits.
Bake in a hot oven 400 degrees just until the biscuits are light brown, but you are sure the dough is done through and through. No one likes a biscuit that is still doughy, but neither does anyone like a hard crust either!
You can brush melted butter on the tops of the biscuits when they are done, or before you place them in the oven. This is also a hint to keep the biscuits soft and moist. This recipe will make around 8 to 10 biscuits, depending on the size of your tin can. A variation of this recipe is to use tomato juice instead of milk. the biscuits will be red and you will love the flavor if you eat them with a slice of country ham in them! They do not rise as much as buttermilk biscuits.
At this point, all you will need is to eat the biscuits – hot right out of the oven with butter, honey, home made strawberry jam or molasses. Gourmets – Eat your heart out, country cooking rules!


Philippians 2:3-4     
Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

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ARE WE ORDERING SCRAMBLED BRAINS INSTEAD OF EGGS? This is not a political statement as I firmly believe in our right to choose and cast our vote for the candidate we feel is the best person for the office they seek. Majority rules and we move on. My thoughts are what I am witnessing in the human race. Most people are vocal in politics and religion but what is going on is not making sense to me. Maybe it does to you but I want to put some thoughts out there for all of us to mull over and see what we come up as what is going on in this world. We have lost one of the most important assets….Civility……and we could be returning to a barbaric world. I expect to see a caveman jump out with a club and bang people over the head. What happened?
1) When is standing up for one’s belief make them less than another? One of the rights we cherish is the freedoms so many of our young people have fought and died for and this is one right everyone should fight for. It should not matter we may not agree with another’s beliefs but we can agree to disagree.
2) In an effort to stop bullying, I fear many have become bullies themselves. Bullying is never the right path, but too much political correctness or protection gives leave way to “thin skin”. Back in the day, most all of us have had someone say things which were hurtful and we learned to stand up for ourselves. As a mere human, I cannot save everyone from every problem they may have but I can do what I can to not cause more problems for anyone else. 

3) When did everyone want to have some kind of “victim status”? All it takes for me to feel I have no reason to complain is to see a photo of someone who has no legs or arms; someone who cannot speak or hear; someone burned and who will suffer pain for the rest of their lives; or someone destitute without a penny to their name; or a child with nothing to eat. And we have what problems? Let’s stop the self-pity party and count our blessings.
4) When did being a supporter of any candidate, a member of a religion, a certain race or ethnic group make any of us any less in anyone’s eyes? Uniqueness is a symbol of who we are and greatness comes from our internal character in any size, color, belief, and individualism so we should stop categorizing any person. If a person can rise and do great things, give each one the credit for what they accomplish and be proud of their courage and strength.
5) When did we lose the common courtesy which should be extended to each other? A simple thank you is appreciated but have you noticed it is disappearing from a lot of people’s vocabulary but the same person thinks nothing of spouting out criticism and rude comments. There should be a revival of respect to each other; our law enforcement; our teachers; our leaders. I can assure you I appreciate all people who choose to protect or teach us. It is not an easy job for sure.
Arline’s Note: Life is short and we can choose how we spend it. Why not scramble eggs and not our brains? As an observer of life and a positive participant. Life is what you put into it determines what you get out of it. Not too long ago, I had the opportunity to reminisce when the soles of my shoes came unglued and were flapping when I walked to school. I had to slide down the street to keep them from making a noise. Sounds like I was deprived or a victim? Absolutely not! That was life then as I lived it. I not only survived; I learned I wanted to have a decent pair of shoes and to get them I had to work hard and smart. I don’t regret one flap of those shoes; I am blessed to have many pairs of shoes because of them. Don’t play the victim; don’t make a victim out of someone else; and Be Kind to Each Other and Be Respectful! 
Ephesians 4:32  

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

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TODAY THE WORDS are GOD TOOK TIME WITH BUTTERFLIES.  A dear friend of mine loves butterflies and she posts pictures of butterflies almost every day on Facebook. I see them, I think they are beautiful but until this morning when she posted a composite which I have displayed on this page, I didn’t have the inspiration before. I looked at this picture longer than usual and with a lot more depth visually and then the spiritual connection became evident.  (This dear friend passed away and it seemed to fit this theme as she has transformed into her eternal body).
Let’s look at the life of a butterfly and I think you will realize (you may already know) why God took extra time in creating so many varieties, so many sizes, so many colors, and so much beauty. In the beginning of life, after the egg stage which is attached to the leaf, the caterpillar stage begins. The caterpillar (or larva) is the long, worm-like stage of the butterfly or moth. It often has an interesting pattern of stripes or patches, and it may have spine-like hairs. It is the feeding and growth stage. As it grows, it sheds its skin four or more times so as to enclose its rapidly growing body.
The chrysalis (or pupa) is the transformation stage within which the caterpillar tissues are broken down and the adult insect’s structures are formed. The chrysalis of most species is brown or green and blends into the background. Many species overwinter in this stage. The adult (or imago) is colorful butterfly or moth usually seen. It is the reproductive and mobile stage for the species. The adults undergo courtship, mating, and egg-laying. The adult butterfly or moth is also the stage that migrates or colonizes new habitats.
As we see, the butterfly goes through many stages before it gets to the magnificent display of art as shown on the left and above.

God must have wanted us to see how life can be for all of us with the journey of the butterfly. We go through so many stages and some of them are awkward and sometimes it takes long periods of time before life becomes brilliant and colorful and people begin to show “their true colors of life”. God sent us a message to be patient like his masterpiece and to be watchful, careful, understanding, and faithful to the cause and purpose of our being. When we reach our full beauty in our soul, then we fly with God like the wonderful butterfly. I wrote the following poem in memory of my sweet butterfly loving friend and added it to this post.
Do Butterflies Exist in Heaven?
I think they must be present in Glory.
Their wings all fluttering in the clouds.
They dip to earth to give us a glimpse
Of the beauty in Heaven which surrounds.
Butterfly, can you tell us your Story?
Are you an angel making your rounds?
You light close enough we want to touch
Only to see you leave our leaves and ground.
While we are living, it is for us to flurry.
We live and love, listening to the sounds
For the Butterfly ever illusive as much
As we try to capture the beauty we found.
Butterfly, did you take a flight from Glory?
One of our own has taken to the starry skies
To leave us behind to learn to smoothly glide
And while she flies beyond our earthly sight,
She looks behind and sees her Angel wings.
Now, on earth we will forever bury
Our heads in joy at the beautiful sight
Of the fragile butterfly wondering as it soars
If it be our beloved friend who now can sing
With all the Heavenly Hosts taking to flight.
Written in loving memories of our Butterfly
Teresa Hutto Hester
Until we fly together…. Arline Miller, author

2 Corinthians 5:17                

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 

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TODAY THE WORDS are WHEN MOTHERS LEAVE US. Tomorrow would be our Mother’s  92nd birthday, but we will not have a party. Some days it is so real and some days I feel it is a dream and we will wake up and see her in her yards since her yards were her pride and joy. Well, that is beside her children and family and a boatload of friends and neighbors. This year we will not visit the place set aside for the family’s grave and put fresh flowers on her grave as well as our Daddy’s and both of our brothers’ graves. We will make sure the plot is free and clear from any foreign items. While I was thinking about not making this visit this birthday; this message’s post came to me and I would like to share it with all of you who still have your Mother and it applies to Dads as well but I will direct this to Mother.

When we are conceived, we experience our Mother’s warmth and touch while we are in the womb so there is a bond which is like no other bond. Our minds may not know how much pain and sacrifice our Mothers experience during our birth, but somehow our hearts begin to realize it as we grow. Each step of our lives are usually originated from our parents and most of our first cuddling and care comes from the seemingly endless nights we try to test their love to see how long she can go without sleep. Hopefully, the Daddy steps up as they should and help out; but even if they don’t a Mother will see her child is taken care of if it is entirely up to her. We are fed; we are bathed; we are dressed; we are prepared for sleep. We are carried around until we walk. If we cry, it is usually the Mother who jumps up to see if we are hurt or what is wrong. This continues on even after we are grown. I remember my Mother concerned about this or asking about that; even when I had a grown child of my own. When someone said “A Mother’s love never ends” I believe it fully. When Mother had only a couple of months of living left and I went to spend the weekends with her; her concern was I going to be safe on my trip there or my trip home. It amazes me the strength of a good Mother’s love. 
Then there was the day, right after a brand new year started…..Mother left this earth. She left for a brand new mansion she so deserved with no wants or needs and especially no more pain. There are no more visits or as I like to say “My Spend the Night Party with My Mom” when we would laugh and I would make special trips for whatever she wanted to eat just to see her special smile. I would walk those yards willingly so she could show me each and every bloom. I would gladly listen to the same story over and over just to hear her voice. I know my Sister feels the same way. My message to any of you who are blessed to have your Mother with you….never let a day go by without doing everything you can to be with your Mom; talk to her; laugh or even cry with her; do whatever you can for her because one day Your Mother will leave too. You will then realize the importance of this message. Live life; love life; and live life to the fullest by cherishing the Mother God blessed you to be a child of hers and God has blessed us to be His Children.

HAPPY HEAVENLY BIRTHDAY TO OUR MOST PRECIOUS MOTHER! We will forever love you and we will celebrate every day with you when we meet again. I am posting this today as tomorrow may be an emotional day and I wanted to do this post justice.


Proverbs 31:25-30 ESV 

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”

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