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WHY NOT ME? WHY ME?
WHY NOT ME? WHY ME? I had a curious thought after I have seen many posts on Social Media with some positive and some negative quotes about relationships. I have stopped viewing the pros and cons of our recent election. This controversy brought me to a collective question of Why not me and Why me?
First, let’s discuss why not me question?
As someone who loves a lively discussion but hates an argument, I choose sometimes not to engage in some potentially discussions which might ignite an pointed argument. As much as we have a right to speak our mind in America, it can be as wise to not engage. As the bible gives us wise instruction of when it should be Not Me:
A 1st century A.D. Roman philosopher, Marcus Aurelius, offered a maxim of five words, full of wisdom: “Walk around the briar patch.” Think of the people you know who find it necessary, again and again, to charge through the briar patch, and who end up with shins full of thorns and stickers, and painful and delayed arrivals at the destination. Or maybe, they never get to the destination at all. Avoid Controversy and Conflict with Mediation
There are a number of war cries which are shouted with emotion as people charge into the briar patch. You have heard these and can think of many more:
“They can’t get away with that.”
“I’ll fix him.”
“Who does she think she is?”
It is strange that many people think it is somehow cowardly to go around the thorns. A longer, safer, more peaceful and surer route can be followed with dignity, self-respect, and wisdom. There are even some people who can skip around the briar patch, whistling.
One of the outstanding briar patches of life is that of arguments. Most often, arguing causes the other person to become defensive and more convinced than ever about his or her opinion. What can be done about it? Here are some suggestions:
Disengage. Agree with the opposition to stop the argument and let some time pass, which often brings about a modification of both positions.
Develop more facts. Established facts are difficult to argue about.
Appeal to the other person. Ask for a modification or a change in position on his or her part because it means so much to you. People are often responsive to an appeal whereas they resist if someone tries to argue them into it. Try saying, “I want to make an appeal to you about something.”
Identify points of agreement. Go from there.
Find a mediator.
If someone makes a statement with which you disagree, if you say nothing, sometimes it just disappears into oblivion. Challenging it turns it into an ISSUE, and ISSUES tend to blossom. On the other hand, if it is something you think is of sufficient importance to challenge, go to it. Frequently, however, you might realize that there is no chance of changing some obstinate person’s point of view, and a heated discussion, or, indeed, an argument, can serve no purpose.
What great advice and definite what to do when it is “WHY NOT ME?“
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ~Winston Churchill
Time to discuss when it should be “WHY ME?” One of the first components of a healthy debater and life participant is to have a positive attitude when addressing any discussion. If we are in a positive frame of mind, we are also open minded to listen. Being open minded gives a fair playing ground for all participants.
Please search this article and read the steps entirely. Great reading and advice. The more positive we become we can choose WHY ME?
Note from Arline Miller, author of Sipping Cups of Inspiration: I have lived my life in a positive light. I look for the good in people but in a realistic way. I want to insert a positive reaction to a negative action from others. LIVE LIFE; LOVE LIFE; LIVE AND LOVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST BY ASKING WHY ME? AND WHY NOT ME?
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A blogger since 2012, a published author of two Five Star romance novels, A MISTRESS, A WIFE and TELL ME LIES; LOVE ME STILL and RIDDLE ME THIS, LOVE OR BLISS. Still a small town girl with a lot of experience of people watching.
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