TAKING THE DAY OFF is a great idea but not just for Memorial Day but for a reset. I am proud to be an American for a lot of reasons but I am concerned for not only the state of our country but the world as well. It is hard to watch the news and witness the horrendous acts of humans. I want a reset. I want to ask all of us to stop the blame game since I keep hearing “It is this one’s fault; no it is this someone else’s fault; no, it is another’s fault and on and on.” Let’s get real. It is All of Our Fault if we allow this to fester our society. Two wrongs don’t make a right and they never will.
Here is my reset button list:
- Stop the blame game. We can only control our actions and not the actions of others. Throughout my lifetime, I have been disappointed by many and I am confident I disappointed many others.
- Decide what things we can change. Take positive actions that will make a difference in the world or at least the community we live in.
- React constructively to negative events or people. What can we do or say that will suggest positive action or thinking in a negative situation. Instead of criticizing others, figure out how you can make a good difference and don’t become part of the problem but instead come up with a sensible solution.
- Concentrate on internal growth and success. Personal frustration and/or unhappiness can exasperate any person’s reaction and allows depressing thoughts. I feel “Misery loves Company” comes into play in this situation. In using the time spent criticizing others, we can lose the necessary time to improve our personal lives.
- Build on the idea that we need each other. I love to bake and cook but sometimes I need to take a break and use the services of a restaurant or bakery. How many of us are plumbers? Let something go wrong and a plumber becomes the most important person to contact. The internet, which as a writer and blogger can be a blessing but at the same time, if used unwisely, can be a curse and destructive. Use it wisely. I bounce ideas off a lot of people and they are from all kinds of backgrounds to get a well rounded base for writing but in the end, I select the usable information and discard what is not relevant to what I am writing. I need the input, however, and it is as important even if it is not used.
- Decide to live a happy life even in unhappy times. You may ask, “What are you talking about Miss Crazy Positivity?” It is possible and allow me to reference a time in our country which will make the current times seem frivolous. Many people did not live through the depression of 1929 until it ended but even though the following statistics will show a big decline in births, it is evident some people found a way to be happy or survive the most difficult time. In other words, children were born and life went on in spite of the horrendous conditions.
Trend of the crude birth rate Estimates of the total number of births and the birth rate in the United States have been made for each year NATALITY since 1909. As shown in table 1-B and figure 1-2, the mid=thirties separate two contrasting periods of change in the crude rate. In the earlier period, 1909-33, the rate underwent a marked decline, dropping from 30.0 to 18.4. This represents a continuation of the downward trend that had started many years before. Available estimates place the annual rate in the colonial period at 50 to 57 births per 1,000 inhabitants.2 The only appreciable interruption occurred shortly after the First World War. Following a sharp drop in 1919, the rate climbed in the next 2 years again turning downward to reach an all the low during the depression period. The longterm decline has been characterized as a genuine demographic revolution, related to the development of modern society, the rapid development in arts and sciences, and the adoption of a rational approach in individual and family living.3 Changes in the reproductive patterns of persons living in both urban and rural environments, and the increasing and more widespread knowledge of effective contraceptive methods are factors associated with this secular trend. The movement toward urbanization was also 2Donald J. BOgue, The Population of the united States, The Free press of Glencoe, Illinois, 1959. 3Wilson H. Grabill, Clyde V. Kiser, and pascal K. Whelp ton, The Fertility of Anjeri..qn V/omen, John Wiley and Sons, Inc. New York, 1958.
7. Trust in yourself and your abilities. Before we can believe in others and trust others, we have to believe in our own gut and instinct. We can make decisions for ourselves and can even have input and influence on how others think about a situation. While trusting ourselves, we see things clearer and realize as one young girl said to another, “Do you think this whole world revolves around you or something?” Each one of us is important and we should realize input and brainstorming is the best avenue for resolution of an issue and the creation of solutions. A true Know it All doesn’t know it all but is willing to listen to All to gain knowledge and expand his or her horizons.
8. Listen with an OPEN ear. I get asked a lot of times how did I decide to do this or how do I know how to do that and my answer is always the same. I was not afraid to ask questions, seek help from those who had the knowledge I was seeking, AND importantly, listening with an open mind with an ear tuned in for learning and not contradicting. All that I have learned has been a combination of studying, researching, communicating with others, experience both with success and failures. Others have given good advice which I listened and then chose my own path.
9. Be forgiving and understanding. None of us actually know it all. Plenty of people know a lot but by our human make up, we make mistakes and guffaws. We succeed and fail sometimes many times over. We look wise; we look stupid. We agree to disagree; or we remain stubborn and obstinate and nothing gets accomplished. Forgiveness is a win-win as both receive a good feeling from this encounter.
10. Feel good about life. When we wake up in the morning, it is vital we set the tone for our day. Practice saying, “It is going to be a wonderful day” instead of having a “Woe is me” attitude and watch how much better the day goes. Positivity works. Stop and look at the good things in your life instead of finding fault with your conditions or people you are associated. No matter how bad it may seem, trust me, someone in this world has it worse than you. Concentrate on positive attitude and steps to improve your surroundings and mental focus. You can turn your life into a life you can be happy by practicing being happy within yourself.
LIVE LIFE; LOVE LIFE; LIVE AND LOVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST BY LOVING EACH DAY OF LIFE.
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