SOCIAL MEDIA, FRIEND OR FOE? Over the years, I have tossed this issue in my mind several times. Even though I communicate through most of the social media limbs such as Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Linked In, and my blog utilizing Word Press. I have experienced some success in reaching more people in more countries and this is very satisfactory. I have regained contact with lost friends and classmates through Facebook. It seems on the surface as friendly sources of communication but we should look at all the pros and cons of putting your “stuff” out on public or friendly display. This is the purpose of this blog. Let’s look at social media and then you can weigh in on whether our world is better off with this entanglement or if we are shooting ourselves in the foot.

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I found an interesting article which displays both the Pros and Cons of Social Media (for the article’s location link click on underlined title) and I thought I would kick off the blog message with this article for us to review:

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20 Pros and Cons of Social Media Use

December 6, 2017

My generation grew up in an era not known for leaps in technological advances. The lack of fun, lithium-ion powered iThings forced us to engage in antiquated traditions like going outside, socializing or reading. On the upside, living offline allowed us to keep screw-ups to limited audiences. We also experienced less bullying, anxiety and depression than later peers.

Related: Why Social Media Is Ruining Your Self-Esteem—and How to Stop It

Today, we often perceive anyone who shuns social media as old or out of touch. However, they might be the most mentally fit among us. In reality, most people have little awareness of the frequency with which they check their phones. In a 2015 study, participants checked their phones an average of 85 times each day and spent 5.05 hours per day using their smartphone. This is concerning because several studies and researchers have associated social media with several psychiatric disorders, including depressive symptoms, anxiety and low self-esteem.

Consider these 10 notable pro and con stances regarding social media use.


  1. Messaging on social media sites can lead to face-to-face interactions when plans are made via the sites.
  2. Social media increases voter participation and facilitates political change.
  3. Social media helps reduce loneliness of senior citizens who are socially isolated.
  4. Social media allows for quick diffusion of public health and safety information during crisis events.
  5. The U.S. military and the Department of Veterans Affairs use social media to help prevent suicide.
  6. Social media can help disarm social stigmas like anxiety or depression.
  7. Crowdsourcing on social media allows people to attain a goal, empowering users to achieve positive change.
  8. Social media provides academic research to a wider audience, allowing people access to previously inaccessible educational resources.
  9. Social media sites can help improve overall well-being by providing users with a large social group creating a “contagion” effect.
  10. Professional networking sites like LinkedIn greatly assist companies to find personnel and job seekers to find work.


  1. Social media posts cannot be entirely deleted.
  2. Social media can endanger our military, journalists and activists.
  3. Social media use is associated with personality and brain disorders.
  4. Students who are heavy social media users tend to have lower grades.
  5. Social media can exacerbate feelings of disconnect and put children at higher risk for anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, eating disorders and even suicide.
  6. Criminals can use social media to commit and promote crimes.
  7. Social media can be a drain on time and use up hours that you can’t get back.
  8. Advertising practices of social media sites may create an invasion of privacy.
  9. Social media facilitates sexting, which can lead to revenge porn, criminal charges and a proliferation of personal images.
  10. Social media use can cause personality and brain disorders, ADHD and self-centered personalities—particularly in youth.

Clinical psychologist and author of The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide, Dr. Lucie Hemmen writes that, “Most people experience huge benefits from taking a social media break. There is a way in which cultivating and maintaining your online identity can replace an authentic connection to your true self. The more grounded you are in your authentic value as a human being, the less likely you are to be a heavy user of social media and also to be negatively affected by it.”

For example, if you know that your value is deeper and more complex than what you post and how many likes and comments you receive, then you are probably social media resilient.


The more grounded you are in your authentic value as a human being, the less likely you are to be a heavy user of social media and also to be negatively affected by it.


On the flipside, Dr. Hemmen adds that, “If you struggle with feelings of insecurity and find yourself putting a lot of time and effort into portraying yourself a particular way on social media, then you are more vulnerable and would benefit profoundly from regular breaks. You will have the space needed to move toward your true self.”

Start by temporarily limiting your access. Challenge yourself to abstain from social media for a full week by removing Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media platforms from your phone for a duration of time. Once the initial withdrawal anxiety subsides, take notice if you feel better or worse. Being offline might just be a vacation for you.

Related:Why You’ve Got to Put Your Phone Down—Seriously


I am not advocating to stop using social media as I am a frequent user of getting my thoughts and writing on the blog, my novels, and my poetry/quotes through many sources. I have met so many good, new social media friends by reaching out and hopefully touching them in a positive light…..Arline Miller, blogger and author.

Final Thought by Blogger: My thoughts are self control in the use of social media as any other facet of lifestyle. If you are wondering or even worrying you spend too much time on Social Media….you probably are. If you find yourself taking the comments and/or how many or little likes……. you could take a social media break. One more final thought (not going to worry how you perceived this one LOL): If you looked forward to reading this blog on social media… may want to make your own list of the pros and cons of social media. I mentioned this topic on Facebook and I received more pros than cons of using Facebook. I found it nice to hear people talking about the good things of social media and how they reconnected. I am a recipient of this pleasure too but have wondered what has been wrong with my phone and legs? Why haven’t I tried to find these beautiful friends before Facebook? I ask that we all think about this thought a little and maybe revamp some of our socializing habits. Maybe look up an old friend and go for coffee, lunch, or a walk in the park. LIVE LIFE, LOVE LIFE, AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST by surrounding yourself with positive actions.

(C) Copyright 2012-2018 Arline Miller of Sipping Cups of Inspiration with all rights and privileges reserved. Third party material is sourced with links to original location if known for credit reference.


Author: sippingcupsofinspiration

A blogger since 2012, a published author of three Five Star romance novels, A MISTRESS, A WIFE and TELL ME LIES; LOVE ME STILL and RIDDLE ME THIS, LOVE OR BLISS. Still a small town girl with a lot of experience of people watching. Ten years of blogging experience.

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