GETTING REAL WITH REALITY may be a little too real this morning but this topic will be similar to sand paper and rub you the wrong way but to create a good finish, it has to be hurtful. Recently, several instances and events occurred around me and others and it seemed meaningful to GET REAL not only with myself but others too.  I looked up the word realism and analytically, IT IS WHAT IT IS.

  1. 1.
    the attitude or practice of accepting a situation as it is and being prepared to deal with it accordingly.
    “the summit was marked by a new mood of realism”
    synonyms: pragmatismpracticalitycommon sense, levelheadedness

    “optimism tinged with realism”
  2. 2.
    the quality or fact of representing a person, thing, or situation accurately or in a way that is true to life.
    “the earthy realism of Raimu’s characters”
    synonyms: authenticityfidelityverisimilitudetruthfulnessfaithfulness

    “a degree of realism”

    When you read through the definitions, what are the words that stick out? Did “as it is” or did “authenticity” or “levelheadedness” hit you smack dab in the face? This brings the topic to the forefront of this blog.

    Here goes my opinion: In a world of fake-ness and this is not going to get political, but fake news, it is too easy to buy into all of non-realism. To me, it started when women first with fake breasts, butt augmentation, and nose jobs and then men began to alter their appearances too . The alter realism or fake world began. If truth be known, the judgment of each other became a common place. When men looked at women, they liked what they saw but found natural women less attractive and for some reason put fake-ness on a higher platform. When celebrities pushed the button and a natural curvy woman became a thing of the past, a renaissance image; the world began to admire the fake image or what was perceived as beauty but never was it perfect enough.


    We lost the era of calendar girls, even the Marilyn Monroe image and it led to giving up the Law of Attraction’s Accepting philosophy. I may not agree with everything but watch the video for positivity with assertion of confidence. You can view the video by clicking on the link below.

    The Truth on Changing your Appearance


    Did this video help you to see what we see in ourselves and accepting how we truly look and act can actually attract acceptance from others? Put this theory to the test by getting real and being real. If we are blessed to have gifts, share them. If we aren’t the prettiest girl or guy on the block, remember that Lucille Ball was a beautiful women but she is remembered by her zany actions and odd facial expressions. So was Phyllis Diller, the comedienne, and she played the zaniness up to the max. We can also look at the men who made the most of their “normal looks” by hamming it up. Can you think of John Candy, Red Skelton, and Mr. Bean?

    We live in a materialistically cruel world and to survive and what I like to think “Thrive” we rid ourselves of false expectations. I was reminded the other day when I Portrait Pro’d a photo of myself by my husband who said why did you do that? I said to look my best for the author site and he laughed and said, “You don’t need any fixing, you look beautiful the way you are.” I am not repeating that for vanity but realism. We should love each and every wrinkle as those are experience lines, both good and bad. It speaks volumes for our journey of life.

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    I will give you one more example for your soaking of reality and how it is that one magic moment in your life when you find out you are more than enough, sufficient within your soul and life, and special because of your uniqueness. I will remind you when you are watching the shows that are related to nature and the host or the animal trainer or rescuer comes on, would you relate to them if they weren’t tan or even leather skinned, weather worn, dressed in khaki or similar common but practical clothes? True or not true? When have you seen a fancy, dancy outdoorsman or woman? It is simply how true realism works and if we apply that truth, we let down our guard and become a real person, with the good parts, average parts, and even the parts we aren’t the fondest.


    LIVE LIFE, LOVE LIFE, AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST BY GETTING REAL  with REALITY. I wish you the very best life has to offer.

    (C) Copyright Arline Miller of Sipping Cups of Inspiration with all rights and permission reserved. Third party material is sourced to original source for credit references.

Author: sippingcupsofinspiration

A blogger since 2012, a published author of three Five Star romance novels, A MISTRESS, A WIFE and TELL ME LIES; LOVE ME STILL and RIDDLE ME THIS, LOVE OR BLISS. Still a small town girl with a lot of experience of people watching. Ten years of blogging experience.

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