LET’S NOT OVERREACT; LET’S REACT

LET’S NOT OVERREACT; LET’S REACT is the topic for today. We, as a country, are in the process of confirming a Supreme Court Judge and it is obvious to me some people are overreacting because of their feelings about our current administration. I am a passionate person but even I can exert some restrain. I am seeing panic, hate, anger, and total non compassionate feelings about a judge who has been confirmed before and has sat on the bench for 12 years. Whether or not, you are a Democrat, Republican, Independent, Dependent (this is for our socialist wannabes), this man is due respect. This is not meant to be a political statement but a message of our country needs to calm down. It is not meant to be pro or con Trump as it is a lesson in civility which has disappeared from our society.

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I make this example for example only but it is something to ponder. This example could apply to any walk of life that a high amount of dedication has to be applied before achieving a certain status or level to even be considered for such a highly important position. Do you know what is required to be a nominee for a Supreme Court Justice?

I’ll be the Judge of That!

A judge is a person that makes sure those hearings and trials are handled fairly in regard to the laws. A judge will preside over cases that may involve civil disputes, traffic violations, and business disputes. In cases where juries are called on to make decisions regarding the outcome of the case a judge will instruct the jury on the laws that are applicable in the particular case and tell the jury how to listen to the evidence that has been presented during the case. The judge will hear the verdict made by the jury.

A typical day as a judge may consist of presiding over hearings or trials to ensure they are conducted fairly, listening to lawyer’s present cases, ruling on whether or not certain evidence is allowed in court, settling disputes between lawyers who are opposing each other in a case, directing juries, and deciding cases where a jury is not present.

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Becoming a Judge

 The majority of judges begin their careers as lawyers. There are limited jurisdiction judgeships allowed in 40 states. Every state in the country provides a judicial training and education program that lasts about three weeks for every new judge. There are 25 states that require judges to take additional courses throughout their term on the bench.

There are some judges that are appointed by the government and other judges that are elected by the public.

Education

In order to become a judge a person will first need to earn an undergraduate degree. While there is no specific requirement of bachelor’s degree to attend law school, most students choose history, business, political science, or economics.

Once completing a bachelor’s degree it will be necessary to earn a law degree. Anyone practicing law must attend a law school that has been approved by the ABA (American Bar Association). This legal education will take three years to complete.

After completing law school, a person must then pass the bar exam to become an attorney. This examination may be different from state to state. A person that has been approved to practice law in Indiana cannot practice law in Texas or any other state unless they pass the bar exam for that particular state.

It is recommended that anyone that wishes to become a judge should work as an attorney for at least a few years after completing law school

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Can we look at the differences between react and overreact?

As nouns the difference between reaction and overreaction is that reaction is an action or statement in response to a stimulus or other event while overreaction is a reaction that is excessive. (Google definitions)

 

Maybe we can attempt to RESPOND, not REACT is a good article and especially not OVERREACT. I found an article showing us how to learn to respond and not react and I find it good information.

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Learn to Respond, Not React

‘Do you have the patience to wait
till your mud settles and the water is clear?
~Lao Tzu

POST WRITTEN BY LEO BABAUTA.

Much of our lives is spent in reaction to others and to events around us. The problem is that these reactions might not always be the best course of action, and as a result, they can make others unhappy, make things worse for us, make the situation worse.

Why would we want to make things worse?

The truth is, we often react without thinking. It’s a gut reaction, often based on fear and insecurities, and it’s not the most rational or appropriate way to act. Responding, on the other hand, is taking the situation in, and deciding the best course of action based on values such as reason, compassion, cooperation, etc.

Let’s take a quick example:

  1. React: Your child breaks something. You immediately react by getting angry, perhaps yelling, upsetting the child and yourself, worsening your relationship, not making anything better.
  2. Respond: Your child breaks something. You notice your anger reaction, but pause, take a breath, and consider the situation. First response is to see if your child is OK — is she hurt, scared? Second, realize that the object that is broken, in the larger view, is not that important. Let it go, adjust to a world without it. Third, help her clean up, make a game of it, show her that mistakes happen and that it’s not something to dwell on. Fourth, calmly talk about how to avoid mistakes like that in the future, and give her a hug.

This choice presents itself to us all the time, whether it’s our mother nagging us, our co-worker being rude, our husband not being kind enough, and so on. There will always be external events that bother us, but if we learn to respond and not just react, we can make things better and not worse.

How to Learn to Respond

The main thing to learn is mindfulness and the pause.

Mindfulness means watching ourselves when something happens that might normally upset us or trigger some kind of emotional reaction. Pay close attention to how our minds react.

Then pause. We don’t have to act immediately, just because we have an internal reaction. We can pause, not act, breathe. We can watch this urge to act irrationally arise, then let it go away. Sometimes that takes a few seconds, other times it means we should remove ourselves politely from the situation and let ourselves cool down before we respond.

Pause.

Watch the reaction go away.

Now consider what the most intelligent, compassionate response might be. What can we do that will help our relationship, teach, build a better team or partnership, make the situation better, calm everyone down, including ourselves?

At first, you might mess up. But in time, you’ll learn to watch this reaction, and you’ll get better at the pause. Don’t fret if you mess up — just resolve to be more mindful when it happens next time. Take note of what happened to trigger your reaction, and pay attention when something like that happens again.

Be mindful, pause, then consider a thoughtful, compassionate response.

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I will respond to my thoughts with this final thought. In my life I found the times when I counted to 10 mentally before reacting or even responding, my responses were more logical and not impulsive. I cannot say I don’t react to important events and/or things, but my overreactions have diminished drastically. LIVE LIFE, LOVE LIFE, AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST by slowing down your reaction time and if you can respond instead of react, LIVE IS THE BEST!

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Author: sippingcupsofinspiration

A blogger since 2012, a published author of two Five Star romance novels, A MISTRESS, A WIFE and TELL ME LIES; LOVE ME STILL and RIDDLE ME THIS, LOVE OR BLISS. Still a small town girl with a lot of experience of people watching.

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