We Don’t Choose The Time

First, allow me to say I apologize for my absence in the last few weeks. My husband had a total knee replacement on February 16th and it required some Nurse Arline time. He is doing great, passing the expected levels of progress for this period. While I was taking care of him, a thought kept coming in my head. I am taking some time out this morning to share this thought with my readers and followers.

I would like to choose this time to thank all of you who are following my blog. You are special to me, from countries all over the world and that in itself is amazing. I love to read comments and your thoughts so keep them coming.

Arline Miller, Blogger and Author makes the most of time.

WE DON’T CHOOSE THE TIME has been coming through the last few weeks. Why do I want to share this thought as I feel this blog was chosen for me and in reality, all of you reading.

Throughout my life, I have noticed that what we choose to do is subject to many possible scenarios that something will interfere with the best laid plans. Right? You have experienced this too. Vacations are usually planned months ahead but how many times has an event interfered with your vacation and either they had to be cancelled or rescheduled. Have you given much thought to why this happens?

This is an excerpt from an article which can be found at: https://www.jstor.org/stable/4106977#:~:text=https%3A//www.jstor.org/stable/4106977

I would like to share some times in my life which I feel that if I had chosen a time, my life might be ended or definitely changed.

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I used to travel a lot for work, sometimes several hundred miles for almost all of the work week. I saw so many accidents and it did pass through my mind, if I had left earlier or later, I might have been involved.

When I was young and working part time at Sears in a VICA program, I worked late and back then we lived in a seemingly safer world never locking car doors. After I married, I went to full time so I left work and drove 5 miles home in the country. One afternoon, a couple of men who knew my family and myself, came into my work and I saw them holding a young guy by his arms. After asking for me, they wanted to know if I had given this guy permission to get into my car. First of all, I was startled but I did get out a No. They asked one of the managers to call the police as they had watched him while being dressed in all dark clothes, climb over the front seat, and lay down in the back floorboard. Here is the reason I bring this story into focus.

  • If they had chosen a different time for their break and not been outside at that particular time, they would not have seen him get into my car.
  • Had I chosen to work later, it would have been dark when I would have gotten in my car which had black interior making it almost impossible to see him waiting.

The police were called, the good Samaritans were walking him outside to avoid a lot of commotion to the customers, and he bolted. I have thought many times what if? He, if he chose to stay on the path of crime, probably got caught but I am hoping another scenario. He was a young man and hopefully he chose a different path and found a good way to live life. I will never know, but I can hope that the timing was chosen by a higher power as I was not hurt and only shaken up and scared which made me more careful. You will not catch my car ever unlocked even if I am leaving it for a second. I am hoping that God placed those kind men in the right place at the right time to avoid me of a tragedy that most likely would have occurred. So, my thoughts are “Do we decide time or is it changed or cancelled for a good reason?”

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The following is an excerpt from an article HOW TO BE MORE FLEXIBLE IN LIFE Click on this link for the entire article:


Many people find it difficult to be flexible in life. When unexpected situations arise, it is easy to feel frustrated, making you want to lash out. These rigid ways of being prevent you from getting what you want in the long term, increasing frustrations as you dwell on how things are not working the way you want.

Increasing your mental flexibility helps you stay calm in challenging situations, allowing you to cope with difficulties more effectively, and better navigate stressful situations to achieve desired outcomes. So how can you be more flexible in life?

  1. Accept what you can’t change
  2. Step back from your thoughts
  3. Focus on the present
  4. See the bigger picture
  5. Live by your values
  6. Take some risks

I would love to hear from you on your life experiences when your life might have been turned upside down due to timing intervention. How did you feel about how it prevented and/or caused a significant change in your life?

LIVE LIFE; LOVE LIFE; LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST by being flexible and understanding if you are late for an appointment by something you had no control over, maybe someone or something of higher power prevented a worse event.

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Author: sippingcupsofinspiration

A blogger since 2012, a published author of three Five Star romance novels, A MISTRESS, A WIFE and TELL ME LIES; LOVE ME STILL and RIDDLE ME THIS, LOVE OR BLISS. Still a small town girl with a lot of experience of people watching. Ten years of blogging experience.

2 thoughts on “We Don’t Choose The Time”

  1. I’m so thankful those men alerted you my friend! I believe we are a little more cautious today than we were in our younger days. I definitely believe God watches over us! Little hindrances are blessings in disguise! God’s way of keeping us safe! Sending my love!

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