I have given this post a lot of thought. It seems we are struggling to accept others and this struggle has brought a lot of discord among all people. Politics have taken the place of parenting as we are persuaded to think this way or another. As children, our source of influence was simpler. We had parents who wanted us to behave in a certain way, respect or even disrespect according to how they felt, and our faith had a lot more to do with how they believed than a personal relationship with a Higher Power. Today, I look at the pros and cons of thinking on our own and finding ways of accepting ourselves in order for a better assessment of how we feel about others.
Let us begin with the quote from Lucille Ball:
How can we expect to love others with their imperfections if we do not accept our imperfections? How can we accept love from others when we are incapable of accepting self love?
I looked at this perception of love and I know this is the key to a more peaceful transition. This quote from John Spence is reflective of my thoughts:
Maybe if we get alone with ourselves, accept the good qualities we possess, as well as the imperfections which may be inherent or here’s a thought…We can work on ourselves first to improve our ability to co-exist with others if we obtain a peaceful environment about ourselves. I have assembled some questions to begin the contemplation of whether we truly love ourselves as a person:
Here are some thought provoking questions:
1- If I met someone exactly like myself, would I like them or would I find fault?
2-Could I carry on a conversation with me and find it interesting, boring, or antagonizing?
3-When I am alone, am I content or do I try to find alternate ways to avoid myself by eliminating alone time?
4-When looking in a mirror, do I look at myself realistically or do I imagine a different person staring back at me such as a younger, leaner, athletic, or a more contented person?
5-Do I value my thoughts and write down my thoughts or do I depend only on others written words?
6-Do I share my thoughts or creative ideas on how to do something with others or offer to teach things I know how to do well?
7- Do I always find myself in contradiction to surroundings, events, news, books, movies, etc.?
8-Can I compliment myself when I exhibit good qualities or do I shy away from personal achievement or recognition?
9-Do I see my life as a success, even with occasional set backs or do I feel like a failure?
10-Can I express love for myself to do the following instructions as expressed by Dr. Steve Maraboli?
This self evaluation is necessary for us to be fair in how we accept others. It would be impossible to accept others if we cannot accept ourselves. We, as well as others, will never be perfect. Imperfection is a part of love, self and expressing love to and for others. In life, the average looking girl can be happier than a homecoming queen sometimes. The reasoning is the bar was never pushed so high for the average girl but so high for the homecoming queen that maintaining happiness is not sustainable as time and wrinkles come. Live in reality, love the uniqueness of each individual by initially accepting yourself.
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