TODAY THE WORD is SLOW COOKED GRITS.  Here comes my southern roots with “grits” topic this morning. I lived with my family in Chicago for a few years when I was very young and I still remember my Mother trying to find grits in the supermarket. No where to be found and they had plenty of hominy. That definitely wasn’t grits and we learned to buy grits when we came to Georgia for a vacation and take them back to Chicago when we returned. It is strange to me that not all southerners know how to make grits perfectly and therefore the lumps and sometimes not enough seasoning, but the biggest problem is some people cooking them too fast. Grits were made to be cooked slow and easy. Otherwise, and a lot of cooks will relate to this problem; they sputter and spit at you. Anyone who has been hit by flying grits volcano eruptions knows what I am talking about, hot and fast lava coming straight toward you. My daughter and I visited a fine resort close to St. Augustine FL. and were privy to a fantastic breakfast and they had grits on the menu (this was funny since it is a 5 star resort). We were astonished at the taste of their grits, amazingly smooth and rich with plenty of great taste. Me, being the inquisitive soul I am, asked the waitress if she could tell us how they cooked their grits. She went to the kitchen and came back with instructions to cook them really slow, really slow, with cream and butter added after the initial cooking time. Wow, did this change the way that we cook grits and believe me, it makes an incredible difference and that brings me to the deeper thought………We need to slow down and take the time to “cook” our lives. When we refer to “the good ole days”, we are referring to a slower paced life. It was a time to slowly stir our pans of family, church, friends, and work. More families seasoned their lives with trips to the country, zoos, parks, ponds, trails, or sitting around a fire and topped the “meal” with lots of laughter and chatter. We had plenty of stress but we didn’t seem worried and worked through the ordeals. Good southern grits as well as life should be stirred and simmered to enjoy the best of the best. God has given us one life to live and we need to remember it deserves to be given the proper preparation for eternity. As you hear me say, “Live to love, love to live, and live life to the fullest”.

Proverbs 15:17 ESV     
Better is a dinner of herbs where love is than a fattened ox and hatred with it.

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TODAY THE WORDS are BISCUIT PUDDING.  So many of you have probably not experienced the taste of biscuit pudding, but our Mother used to make the best biscuit pudding in the world. For me to relate the lesson, not the recipe, of this pudding, I have to walk you down memory lane to a time when we were kids. Some of you who have been following my blog and/or have known me are aware our family was not wealthy by any means. Both of our parents were hard workers and did the best they could to provide for our family. It was not because of lack of effort, as I never knew of a lazy bone in either of them. We had food to eat, a decent home and was never cold or hungry and that brings me to the biscuit pudding lesson. Momma taught us to save the “last” biscuit which she would stash in a cupboard wrapped up. We would have never touched that last biscuit for we had our goal of 5 biscuits and then Momma would make us the biscuit pudding. I know it sounds strange, but the biscuits had to “age” to make the proper pudding texture. We would keep count of how many were saved and then we got to taste the sweetness of the pudding. What is amazing is Momma was teaching her children several lessons that have been the base of our values. She taught us patience in the wait. She taught us that anything that was worth having was worth working for it. She taught us goals since I can relate the anticipation, the planning, and the excitement when our “goal” of five biscuits was achieved. She taught us how to appreciate well-earned rewards for all of the above lessons. She taught us love in her desire to give us something special. For the world that has not worked for biscuit pudding, you have missed something wonderful in both taste and learning great lessons in a great loving way. My Sister, even grown, when asked what she wanted for her birthday would gladly tell our Momma she wanted her to bake her a biscuit pudding. I finally learned to make one close to Momma’s  pudding, but there will never be one as perfect as her pudding was. Now, for the deeper thought…..we learn from Our Maker’s kitchen…..the perfect recipe for our lives is in His Cookbook. If we follow His directions carefully and measure out each ingredient in our life, we will achieve the rewards of a perfect “dessert” rich with love, compassion, forgiveness, and charity. Let’s bake up some wonderful memories of life with our loved ones today and everyday!
John 6:35  English Standard Version (©2001)
Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst.

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TODAY THE WORD is PREDICTIONS.  We woke up this morning and learned it was Groundhog Day and we watched “Phil” as he was reluctantly pulled from his stump and made his annual prediction of early spring. My mind made its way to predictions and how they play a role in our lives. Now, Phil has only been on target 39% correct which is below 50% but every year, more than 30,000 fans were present and millions watched him on TV. Why are we so interested in predictions? Superbowl predictors are hard at work for tomorrow’s big game. When the horses aren’t even in the stalls at Churchill Downs for the Derby, the odds are flying. Elections, polls, surveys, and predictive meters give us “predictions” and we listen for some odd reason. Some select people, for whatever reason, predict “incorrect” end of the world and even though they have been wrong, people still listen…..what is up with that? Is it that we have a curiosity about these things and want to have confidence in what we are predicting quietly? Predictions are just that, predictions and another word is “guesses”. I always go back to the upset in the election between Dewey and Truman with newspapers printed showing Dewey as the winner and as we know that when it was said and done, Truman become our president……Predictions??…….Now for the deeper thought……can we make a prediction on our eternal destination or can we be 100% sure without the odds? God has promised our place in Heaven if we believe in His Plan. He has reviewed the odds of Satan’s influence over this world, our human weaknesses, and all of the worldly temptations; He has placed His bet on us! With His strength, His compassion, His forgiveness, and His Love, we have the absolute prediction of Eternal Love and Existence with Him. Earthly predictions are good guesses, sometimes right; sometimes wrong but with Our Maker, it can only be right.

1 John 3:19-20

By this we shall know that we are of the truth and reassure our heart before him; for whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and he knows everything.

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TODAY THE WORDS are HOME SWEET HOME. For some reason, my mind has traveled back in time, not to the home where I was raised, but my Grandfather and Grandmother’s house (on my father’s side). The thought brought to mind two houses as my father and his siblings lived in a huge house with the long center hall going down the entire length of the house. I remember the well off the back porch that water could be drawn from the porch. I remember the fireplace and the kitchen. It was typical of many floor plans in those days. Apparently, when my father was old enough, he and Granddaddy built the house that I remember visiting while they lived there. The “old” big house was visited when it was empty by all of us, but it has intrigued me all of my life. It had a mystique that brought all kinds of spooky stories to my mind. The smaller house had more “modern” features and we had many great meals cooked by Grannie Lott and all of the cousins would play and play. We swam in the pond and laughed. We shared many adventures in the surrounding woods and barns. Neither of these houses were fancy and the biggest difference was one was big and one was small. The biggest similarity was they both were Home Sweet Home. When people say Home is where the heart is, that is simply the truth. Whether it is a mansion on a hill, or a tiny two bedroom wood house built with love, home is all about the love in it and not the materials from which it is made. Now for the deeper thought……We have homes on earth……we can have mansions in heaven. We are to love our families, take good care of them, cherish our relationships, but not to give too much emphasis on material things. Our thoughts and prayers should be preparing to be granted a place for eternity that will surpass all earthly possessions. I go back to the two houses…as long as love is present….does it really matter whether a friend has a bigger, finer, more elegant home. We are to flourish in our lives, but riches are not mandatory; rich faith and devotion is! We appreciate our home that we live in and it is comfortable; we look forward to our Heavenly Home more!

John 14:3
And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.

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TODAY THE WORD is MOMENTUMWhen we think of momentum, we probably think in terms of speed and motion. We think of athletes having a lot of momentum to endure the race, the game, the trials and practice sessions. We also associate them as being fit physically and mentally to enable the achievement of high momentum. This is mandatory for them to “stay on top” of their game or event. People assume they come from different genes to maintain such high and fast momentum. Inherited genes may play a part in their make up, but when I see fit, lean athletes with their parents; I wonder! My reference to momentum is not so much physical  momentum as I am writing about individual momentum as it relates to our life in general. I understand that most people are not truly optimistic as a general rule. It would help if more people would exercise more positive assertion or “momentum of life”. I love to see posts from people who find a great reason to live, work, play, love and care. I have always respected people who keep the negative to themselves or ones that are close to them and when I see them, they have a smile on their face. This is the momentum, or the velocity thrust into living and meeting the challenges on a daily basis. This is the strong “athletes” of life. They endure, they excel, they fall and get up again, they run until they are so tired they have to walk, and they love with the strength of Hercules but with the gentleness of the meekest lamb. Now for the deeper thought…..How is our momentum when we are faced with challenges? Do we sink or stand taller in our faith, our work, our family and our friends? Warp speed is how we need to rise when things go wrong. We should welcome when it is us that others call when they are struggling to share our strength with them and most of all, with a smile and an open heart. God loves heroes, as He has set the example of The Greatest Hero of All!

Isaiah 41:10 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

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TODAY THE WORDS are DO OVER. I noticed that someone posted the other day she needed a “do over”. Now, exactly what is a do over? Since it is a definite slang expression, I checked and this is what came up….”a second attempt or chance.” Most of us have had numerous “do overs” in our lifetime. If we didn’t get it right the first time, we tried again. Sometimes, again and again was more like it; maybe more like “multiple do overs”. I wonder if we don’t count it as a do over until we get it right and then if we have to re-do something, it becomes a do over. I am not quite sure; I do know some people have a harder time of getting something right the first time. Some lessons are harder to learn and we really have to practice do overs. Since we ladies refer to our hair style as “hair dos” and I see a lot of ladies making regular trips to the salon. Are they getting “hair dos or do overs? Just a little thought provoking before the deeper thought……Do we need a do over in our life and I am not referring to divorce? Some of us had to do that too, but I am talking about all of us that are in marriage, relationships, or actually still single. I had to realize for my marriage to be all that it can be, I had to adjust myself (in other words do a do over on my thinking). Both of us had been single for quite a while and had become great decision makers on our own. This was the big need for a do over as marriage is a partnership, a union, a bond, and a compromise. Our “do over” had to make it possible for us to learn how to make joint decisions or compromise to the one who had more experience to make a decision and it be agreeable for each one of us. Do overs take some time to work and don’t happen overnight. It was worth the effort; do overs work! What have we done in our lives to improve what used to be acceptable; times have changed and have we changed with them? I am not talking about “trendy” changes; I am talking about becoming more dedicated; more loving; more forgiving; more humble; more charitable; and more faithful to Our Maker. Do overs can be exciting!
2 Corinthians 5:17 ESV
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

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TODAY THE WORD is LOVE. I had the honor of congratulating one of my dear friends and her fiance on their engagement and the word love formed thoughts in my mind. Most of us have experienced several kinds of love in our lives. We had our first love and our little hearts pounded even though we didn’t understand exactly why it was pounding. Normally, our first little loves or crushes didn’t last too long partially because we weren’t in a stage where our interests migrate from one to another, usually in the same day. We, as we grew older, many of us thought we were in love when it wasn’t love at all, but more physical attraction with a shallow amount of “love” involved. For some, love did find its way in hearts and it lodged with a life long feeling that never went away. For others, many of us loved several times only to have our hearts broken until “the one” came along. Love also comes in the form of a natural love of our children and in return, love for our parents and this one stays (unless outside factors cause rifts) throughout our lifetime, parents’ lifetimes and some grandparents are like our parents and a deep love happens. Sometimes, true love comes later in life, and for some reasons, we seem to appreciate the later love very much. Now for the deeper thought…..Love has to be nurtured to thrive even if it is strong in its young stage. People are more susceptible to hurt from someone you love and they love you. A stranger’s harsh words do not penetrate the heart as one slight murmur from a loved one can pierce with the cut of the sharpest knife. Love has to cherished by both lovers and doesn’t have room for more people in a relationship. Friends are good but they are included in the friendshp but cannot become more important that the couple. Love has to be based on trust, friendship, loyalty, and I believe faith has to be in the forefront. God seals our love with each other and puts a barrier to protect that love for each other. To me, this is the only other presence that should be in true love. Valentines Day is coming soon and I think if we show our loved ones the same expression of love that we show them on this holiday on each and every day of our “love life”, Love will blossom as the roses that are sent.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

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TODAY THE WORDS are MENDING FENCES.  Not all of us have worked on a farm, but some of us have helped when a fence needed repair or as we say in the South, “We have some fences that need mending”. As we see the meaning of “mending” in the dictionary is:

mend·ing /ˈmendiNG/


Things to be repaired by sewing or darning: “a muddle of books and mending”.

repair – mend – correction – refit – darning

The reason I wanted to show the meaning of mending is the synonyms for this word and how my thoughts are going this morning. “Repair” -“mend” – “correction” – “refit” – “darning” are words that we should use in our lives. Not too many of us will ever experience the actual art of “mending fences” but what about mending fences in our lives? A lot of us have people that during our lifetime we have had disagreements and have torn down relationship fences. We have said things in anger or disapproval that in time need to be “fixed”. Mending is repairing or correcting; so there lies the need to correct or repair relationships, friendships, families, and/or co-workers. I think we can reap the rewards of mending fences by looking at a “job well done” when we have spoken or hashed out our differences and made peace. Have you heard stories of how sisters or brothers; parents or children; business partners; and in extreme cases husband and wife not speaking for long periods of time? Those are fences in bad need of mending. Let’s mend fences with those we love and look at our life in a proud accomplishment. Now for the deeper thought…..Has God repaired or mended you? He is the Master Carpenter, Handiman, and Architect and will gladly add an addition to your home, His Love, Mercy and Grace if you contract with Him to live a life filled with love, charity, understanding, and forgiveness and repentance.

Mark 11:22-25
22 Then Jesus said to the disciples, “Have faith in God. 23I assure you that you can say to this mountain, ‘May God lift you up and throw you into the sea,’ and your command will be obeyed. All that’s required is that you really believe and do not doubt in your heart. 24Listen to me! You can pray for anything, and if you believe, you will have it. 25But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too

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TODAY THE WORDS are RUBBER BANDS. Oh the fun rubber bands have played in our childhood. We shot them at each other; we made our homemade version of slingshots from them; most of us girls wore pony tails using them; and so many other creative uses were invented. They came in different sizes but they all served the same purpose holding things together. I saw an article and it lised 52 uses for rubber bands and I thought I would list a few of them to see if your memory will be jogged (kind of humorous since one of the uses is to put a rubber band on your finger to remind you to do something). Here’s a few uses: 1. A hair tie; 2. A diversion; 3. An eraser; 4. A sports-glasses holder; 5. An eyeglasses safety strap; 6. A poster scroll; 7. A handle grip; 8. A mafia wallet; 9. A humble reminder; 10. A candle dewobbler. (for all of the 52 Uses for Rubber Bands, google it with reference to by Paul Michael on 12 May 2010;  Wisebread).
 Now for the deeper thought……a rubber band has many uses in this life and so do we!…..But how many of our talents and abilities do we use? My Mother, only in her 60’s, found out by doodling, that she had talent for drawing flowers. She went from doodling to acrylics and then on to oil paintings. None of her works are hanging in any museums, but a lot of her work was distributed in our homes and homes of her family and friends and they are priceless. That talent was lying stagnant until she started doodling to pass some of her free time. How many of us have stagnant talents waiting to be shot acroos the room? Remember someone had to shoot the first rubber band to find out what fun it can be. This life is short and instead of finding something to complain about, become a “rubber band” with at least 52 things that you can do. Seek out your talents; ask God for help in using your hidden talents to help others; try different things (as I do with my writing of this blog); discover things that you enjoy doing and do them; and start soaring in this life. Who would have thought a rubber band would have 52 uses, so what are we waiting for? A little afterthought about the simple rubber band….it can stretch to unbelievable lengths; so we need to stretch our comfort level and go for things that take us out of our comfort zone!

1 Kings 8:54 ESV     
Now as Solomon finished offering all this prayer and plea to the Lord, he arose from before the altar of the Lord, where he had knelt with hands outstretched toward heaven.

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